It's Not Worth Living a Sassy Life.

By Dark clouds

 It's simple to harbor resentment. It's simple to get furious with someone for the rest of your life after having a falling out or an argument with them. I used to hold onto grudges and think precisely this way, but now I've given it some serious thought and realized that life is too short to hold onto things like that.

Don't misunderstand me; I'm not advocating pretending that something never happened or keeping someone in your life if they treat you badly or show you disdain. People may be cruel at times, and we frequently don't deserve how people treat us, so why invest your energy on someone who has nothing to do with you? Be furious at the time; you have every right to vent your feelings; nevertheless, the sooner you can get over your anger, the sooner you will be able to put the situation behind you for good. Dropping your rage over a circumstance can assist you in achieving your goal of happiness, which you deserve to be as happy as possible.

Of all, since we're all capable of empathy, we occasionally experience resentment over things that happened in the past. On the other hand, we'll be happy in the long term the less we can do to prevent those things from impacting our mood. Yes, I could aggressively despise everyone who I believe has done me wrong and make it my life's work to criticize everything they do going forward. But looking back, what pleasure would I derive from that? You know what's worse than openly disliking someone for it? Some individuals are poisonous and aren't intended to be in your life forever. Eliminating oneself from the circumstance.

Although "ripping friends off" is sometimes seen as a selfish behavior, it may also be a self-care measure that is not malevolent in nature. It's acceptable to get rid of people from your life if they are just contributing negative to your happiness. Life is too short to be snarky about someone all the time. If we have a disagreement, in my opinion, you are either finally forgiven or you are no longer important. That doesn't mean I'll ignore you if I pass you on the street; I'll probably still smile and recognize you since that's just who I am, but I won't put any effort into it. There is no malicious intent behind it, and I'm not attempting to I'm not trying to be harsh or convince you to fight to remain in; rather, I'm just taking a step back and realizing that maintaining contact isn't beneficial for either of us. 

Of course, not every disagreement has to result in a person being cut off. Everyone makes errors, and occasionally you'll momentarily split apart from folks before getting back together. This isn't a piece advising you to cut everyone out of your life; rather, it's an explanation of why, in my opinion, life is too short to spend your (mad) energy on someone who doesn't deserve it.

What do you think about the situation? Do you concur? Do you object? I'd love to hear about your individual experiences or engage in some constructive debate in the comments!

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